Helping Your Family When a Member is Dead
Bereavement in Islam
The pain felt when losing a loved one is shared by Muslims and non-Muslims alike. It can have a profound eect on your life and can leave you feeling alone. There is nothing wrong with these feelings, which we can see from the example of our Prophet Muhammad SAW. He (SAW) encountered many bereavements in his lifetime. During the ‘Year of Grief’ Prophet Muhammad SAW lost his beloved uncle, Abu Taalib and his dear wife, Khadeejah RA. What was clear from his example during such dicult times, was that while he was certainly grieving, he demonstrated such beautiful patience.
At the time of the death of his son, Ibrahim RA, Muhammad SAW took him; he kissed him and smelled him. As Ibrahim took his last breaths, Allah’s Messenger (SAW) weeped. At this, one of the companions said “Even you are weeping!” He (SAW), said “The eyes are shedding tears and the heart is grieved, and we will not say that except what pleases our Lord. O Ibrahim! Indeed, we are grieved by your separation.” [Bukhari]
So while there was grief, Prophet SAW remained graceful in how he handled his grave loss. He remained humble but demonstrated that weeping and sadness at the time of a tragedy, with gracefulness, is human.